Saturday, July 21, 2012

Addition to my intro

As I was writing my intro I forgot to mention the tremendous support and love that my wife expresses toward me everyday and how it is hard to cope with your partner, especially if the diagnosis is recent.  I decided to add a part about how grateful I am for my wife and all of her support and to let everyone know that once you find out of your spouses diagnosis the best thing you can do is support them and work with them.  This is the selection I added;


As far as relationships go I never really knew how to talk to women, granted I had a lot of female friends in school I was unable to express how I felt toward them.  My best friend actually introduced me to a girl, who is now my wife, and I talked to her for a while and we started dating however it was more so my writings rather than my words that attracted her as I felt more comfortable writing.  Over the years since our marriage we have had some problems as most couples do mostly surrounding how she feels that I don’t love her like I used to, however that is not the case.  Although we have been married for nearly 10 years now it is still much easier for me to express my love to her through writing letters and poetry and since the diagnosis she understands this better.  I commend my wife for all of her support and for sticking with me for so long even though sometimes I make her feel inferior because I have to correct anything wrong she says and although we do argue a lot she still supports me and gives me ways and tips on how I could have said it better to not come off so strong as this has been a big issue with the jobs that I’ve had and my interactions with my co-workers.  Having Aspergers is really hard in relationships however the more supportive and understanding you are of your partner it is easier to understand and deal with them and if that does not work you should never be ashamed of counseling as it is a great help too.

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