Earlier I posted about the situation with my son which I copied from my wife's facebook status. After failed attempts of texting and calling the coach to find out about the tournament schedule I finally called the LAC (LaBrae Athletic Conference) and the WAC (Warren Athletic Conference) presidents and told them the story of what had happened and then finally after that the coach texted back. The League President of the WAC said there was nothing that he could do since the LAC only participates in the conference and the only thing that he could enforce was that all players that are present need to play but he can't do anything about the coward coach not calling us. The league president didn't say coward though, I just thought that I would add my feelings there. Anyhow here is how the texts went since Tuesday
Me (June 26)- Is there a tournament schedule yet?
The rest were from today, June 30, 2012 after a parent asked me today if David was going to be at the next game and they missed him for the last two games.
Me (11:20 AM)- When is the next game?
Me (1:22 PM)- When is the next game?
Me (2:59 PM)- ?
Me (4:28 PM)- When do tournaments start?
Well as you can see I went from 11:20 AM until 4:30 PM without a reply from the coach before I decided to contact the LAC and league presidents as recommended. I finally got ahold of the LAC president at 5:20 PM and he said he does not know what Shawn Phillips does with his team but he will call him and ask him and hopefully get a date and time for the next game. He must have called him because Shawn finally replied.
Shawn (5:41 PM)- What's your issue? Not all players have to go to tournament.
Me (5:44 PM)- You never said he couldn't go to tournaments. We were waiting thinking he was still part of the team. We expected he could finish the season. What's your issue.
Shawn (5:50 PM)- I have no issues with you or your son. I was trying to give the kids an even chance with the other teams.
Me (5:52 PM)- If not all kids have to be in tournaments why not tell us? Why ignore us? And why lie to the other coach about where we are?
Me (5:55 PM)- The kids and even chance? Or show them how to discriminate against the kid that isn't as good as the others? Our son happily sits on the bench and likes to be included. He did not cause you to lose any games. He was not a key player but he still brought in some runs. It meant something to him to be included.
Me (6:08 PM)- What do you want us to tell David when he asks about why he didn't get to go? How would you feel in our situation? We have never expected you to play him for a whole game and we made that clear.
Shawn (6:11 PM)- By rule, all players must bat and play 2 inning on defense.
Me (6:13 PM)- I know this. What about ignoring us not informing us and lying to the Southington coach
League president finally called me back around 7:30 PM while we were at the Scrappers game and I talked to him and told him the situation. He said that usually all coaches bring their whole team to all the tournaments and that if it was a coach in his league (WAC) that he would take disciplinary action on that coach but since we were in the LAC he couldn't but he was supposed to have a league president meeting and that the LAC president should be there and he would talk to him about it and hopefully have some answers. After hearing this I was a little more upset. Remember guys not only does David have aspergers but I do too and I get upset quite easily.
Me (8:33 PM)- Southington coach was mad. Not because you held david back but why you held him back and lied to them. Also george kasach and ted elder said it was a crock what you told us about not every kid has to be invited. Ted said he can't do anything but it's up to george. Oh, southington has an autistic chiild and a 6 year old in their line up and invited everyone. Now how about some answers please. I'm not trying to be mean just want answers for David.
Shawn (8:40 PM)- I'm sorry your upset. I was trying to do the best for the team without hurting anyone's felling.
Me (9:01 PM)- A heads up would have better than ignoring us. Also zip lube knows that we are not on vacation so you might want a new story.
Me (10:48)- I take it since I was not given a time or day for the next game that he's still not invited? If that's the case please do me a favor and tell the parents the truth of why he's not there. I had 2 parents from the team ask me why he wasn't at the last 2 games so I had to tell them that no one told us about them. If you could be truthful I would appreciate it. Thank you.
That was the extent so far but I don't think I am done. This man should not be coaching if that's how he want to play. As one of my friends said it is just as much cheating taking out a bad player as it is to stack a team with star players. I don't want to cause the team to have to forfeit or anything but I want everyone to know how displeased I am with the coach. It would not be fair to the other kids to have to give up the other games because of how cruel and unprofessional the coach is. It should not be tolerated. The age group for this team is 9-10 y.o. and we let the coach know at the beginning of the season of David's aspergers and even went out of our way to print information for him to understand it a little better. If you have any input please comment because people like this should not be allowed to show that kind of sportsmanship to kids of that age because the kids learn that it's okay to discriminate against someone that is different and that is totally not the case.
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